Her Renewed Strength Podcast | Episode 41

Hey, sister girl! Are you guilty of people-pleasing?

If you feel guilty about saying no… if you’re worried about what others think… or if you feel bad for standing up for yourself, chances are, you are a people-pleaser.

So, here’s a BIG word for you: Sometimes you need to say no to people, so you can say yes to God!

Today, we’re digging into the topic of people-pleasing and spending time in Paul’s letter to the Galatians, with a special focus on Galatians 1:10 to answer the question, “from whom do we seek approval?” I also get really vulnerable and share some personal experiences.

So, grab your Bible and a pen, and let’s do it!

Why you’ve got to check out today’s episode:

• Find out what people-pleasing looks like and what the Bible says about it.

• Uncover the root of your people-pleasing so you can say no to those people and say yes to God.

• Develop the habit of considering God and the eternal impact of your decisions so that you can live life with contentment.

“Whatever you are avoiding, whatever boundaries you are not setting, whatever things you are not getting done, social media is enabling that.”

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Check out these episode highlights:

01.28 – The definition of a people-pleaser according to Google and Merriam-Webster.
People-pleasing can take so many forms.

• Saying yes when you’re tired, busy, or overwhelmed.

• Acquiescing to the pressures of those around you, despite you having stated your position or preference (whether or not you provided explanations).

• Tolerating disrespect for fear of being perceived as difficult or problematic.

03:02 – Why do you do people-pleasing? My story about being a people-pleaser, and full disclosure, this is a sexual harassment story.

08.53 – “For am I now seeking the favor of people, or of God? Or am I striving to please people? If I were still trying to please people, I would not be a bond-servant of Christ.” Galatians 1:10 NASB

• “Seeking the favor” translates from the Greek word peithō, which means to persuade or be persuaded. It also means to trust, have confidence or be confident.

11.38 – If you struggle with people-pleasing, whether it’s because you want to be accepted, or you want to receive love from them, or you don’t want to stir the pot, whatever it is, winning someone else’s favor is not more important than being right with God.

13.27 – 3 Journal Prompts to get to the bottom of your people-pleasing.

1. Who [what people] do I tend to “please” and what do those concessions look like?

2. What is my thought process when I’m in the midst of a situation that can lead to people-pleasing?

3. How can I develop the habit of considering GOD and the eternal ramifications of my decisions to appeal to people, so that I can resist the temptation to secure short-term comfort?

Key Takeaways:

• People-pleasing is a manifestation of lack of love, an emotional need. Turn to God who is love and fill your love tank.

• Embrace uncomfortable feelings. Value truth and spiritual growth over feeling comfortable.

• You live to honor God and not to please people. Honor God first and all else will follow.

Resource:

• Get access to Firm Foundations, a completely free mini-course designed to build on the unshakeable truth about your identity, purpose, and calling in Christ.

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• Website: Her Renewed Strength

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